Two people raising arms in victoryLuminita D. Saviuc’s blog – purposefairy.com features a list of 15 things that if we give up, will make our lives a lot easier and a whole lot happier. There are a lot of people out there who cling to a variety of things that cause pain, stress and suffering. Rather than letting go of them and of allow themselves to be stress-free and happy, they hold tight to them. No more! If you are ready for change read on and live well!

 

1. Get rid of the need to always be right

There are so many people who deplore the thought of being wrong. They ALWAYS want to be right – even if it means bringing great relationships to an end or causing a lot of stress and pain, for themselves and others. It’s simply not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urge’ to insert yourself into a battle over who is right and who is wrong, consider this question from Dr. Wayne Dyer: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Will winning your point of view make that big of a difference? Is your ego really that big?

2. Throw control out the window

If you can give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, whether they are family, those you work with, or just folks you meet on the street –simply allow them to be. Let everything and everyone be just as they are and you will see how much better that will make you feel. Chinese philosopher and poet Laozi said, “By letting it go, it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond winning.”

3. Give blame the boot

Release your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have. Stop blaming others for what you feel or don’t feel. Put an end to giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Stop the self-defeating self-talk

There are countless numbers of people who are hurting themselves because of their negative, toxic and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that. Eckhart Tolle suggests, “The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.”

5. Let go of your limiting beliefs

Stop thinking about what you can or can’t do, or that which is possible or impossible. Starting today, promise yourself that you are no longer going to allow limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Elly Roselle, founder of Core Belief Engineering teaches, “A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.” So, let’s spread those wings and fly folks!

6. No more complaining

The pitty-party ends here! Promise yourself to give up the need to constantly complain about countless things such as people, situations, and events that are making you sad, depressed and unhappy. Stop it right away! There is not one soul on Earth that can make you unhappy, no situation that can make you sad or miserable unless you let it. The situation that triggers those feelings in you doesn’t cause the problem, it’s how you choose to look at it that does. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Stop being critical

Get rid of your need to criticize things, events, or people that are different than you. Everyone is different, yet in reality, we are all alike. Everybody wants to be happy. Each of us wants to love and be loved. We just want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. No more trying to impress others

Trying to be something that you’re not just to make others like you is a tough act. The reality is; it doesn’t work. When we finally let go and stop trying so hard to be something that we’re not and take off all the masks and accept and embrace our genuine selves, then we begin to experience what it is like to have people drawn to us, effortlessly.

9. Stop being so resistance to change

Who was it that started the notion that change is a bad thing? Change can be a good thing. It helps us move from point A to point B. If you embrace change, you will see improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Pursue that which you love and enjoy-don’t resist it. A wise philosopher once said, “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”

10. Throw away the labels

As life unfolds around us, we must stop assigning labels to those things, people or events that are beyond our understanding. When we encounter those things which seem strange or unordinary let’s open our minds, little by little. Our minds are like an umbrella. It only works when we open it. Dr. Wayne Dyer is known for saying, “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.”

11. Give up on your fears

Fear doesn’t exist, it is just an illusion – we create it ourselves. Fear is all in our minds. If we fix our inside selves, the outside will fall into place. Remember what FDR said? “The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”

12. Put excuses in the trash can

Fire them, pack them up and send them out with the trash. Let’s resolve to admit we don’t need them any longer. How often we limit ourselves when we make excuses. Instead of trying to grow and improve ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that aren’t even real 99.9% of the time .

13. Don’t live in the past

Wow, this one is hard, especially when our past looks so much better than the present, and thinking about what’s to come can be pretty scary. We must remind ourselves of the fact that this moment right now is all we have and ever will have. It’s funny how we long for things in the past but we ignored them when they were in the present. We must stop playing mind games with ourselves. Strive to be present in everything you do and enjoy life because life is a journey not a destination. Sure, we should have a clear vision for the future, and prepare ourselves, but always being present in the now is important.

14. Take a pass on being attached to things

For most of us this is a concept that is so difficult to get our heads around, but it’s not impossible. You get better and better at it with time and practice. When we detach ourselves from all things, or as I like to call it, “stuff”, we become the recipients of peace, tolerance, kindness, and serenity. It doesn’t mean we give up our love for things– because love and attachment are separate. They have nothing to do with one another. We get attached to things from a place of fear, while real love is pure, kind, and self-less.

15. Stop living your life to meet other people’s expectations

Countless people are living their lives around what others think is best for them. Whether it is their parents, their friends, their enemies, their teachers, their government or even the media, many are living their lives according to what these poeple and institutions think is best for them. They pay no attention to that inner voice and calling. They give up control over their lives because they are so obsessed with pleasing and living up to other people’s expectations. They miss out on what brings them happiness. They lose out on what they want and what they need and, ultimately they forget about themselves.

Each of us has one life – this life – we must live it, own it, and especially avoid letting the opinions of others move us off our path.

I offer you my wish for a long, healthy, and happy life!